This month, my church is doing a series on marriage called "I Do/I Don't". As an introduction, they are offering a free couples checkup online to see where you are in relation to your spouse and help open the lines of communication.
Matt and I took it and it was very interesting how accurate it was after just answering a few questions. It really hit the nail on the head and identified the problem areas as well as our strengths. The results are graphed and grouped into key relationship areas. It telsl you where you and your spouse are in agreement and where you might need to discuss further. Some of our areas of highest agreement where financial management and spiritual beliefs.
One of our lowest was conflict resolution.
(And satisfaction of leisure activities because Matt doesn't have time for any, which appears to bother me more than him.)
We were already well aware of this. A lot of it has to do with the fact that we are both "typical" first born children. We both can be opinionated, stubborn, and controlling. Needless to say, we can butt heads a lot. Over really stupid things. I'd really like to stop that.
It was really nice to spend the evening talking about our relationship(and all the guys out there reading are gagging now) when all the "issues" were identified and printed right there in front of us.
At the end of the checkup, there is a SCOPE Personality Scale. Matt was identified as: social, flexible, organized, uncooperative/controlling, and emotionally steady. That's a pretty good balance.
I, on the other hand, am antisocial, closed off, organized, uncooperative/controlling, and emotionally unsteady. Awesome! Matt is a LUCKY guy. Yeah, I'm not perfect. I'm a work...in progress. (haha was that too corny? sorry)
If you are interested in taking the couple checkup for yourself, go to our church website. It has the website listed with the voucher code for the free assessment(it's normally $20). The format of the questions is "rate on a scale of strongly agree to strongly disagree". It takes about 15 min for each of you. The questions are completely non-religious(if that is a concern). Offer expires Feb 14. Hey, and if you live in the area, now would be a great time to check out our church during our marriage series!